What’s more, with the ongoing COVID-19 crisis, more families than ever are struggling — with health anxiety, job loss, social distancing, children still out of school and other consequences.
Sadly, stress in its many forms can be a contributing factor to child abuse and neglect. At Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASA) of Denton County, we’ve seen this time and time again with the children and families we serve who are involved in the foster care system. Stress is a natural byproduct of parenthood, but when those stresses are combined with anxieties over things like financials, health, employment or relationships, it can become too much for one person to handle.
While there is no excuse for abuse or neglect, we must understand what underlying issues can cause it to occur if we, as a community, wish to prevent it and help families safely stay together. After all, we know that the vast majority of parents love their children — and the last thing they want is for their kids to have to go into foster care based on a mistake they may have made during a difficult time.
So maybe you’re wondering: What can you do to help? As a community, we can come together to help prevent child abuse and neglect by aiding our own family members, friends and neighbors in reducing the stresses of parenthood. There are many efforts you can undertake to support families directly, and while they may seem small, they can have a major effect.
Offering childcare is a wonderful way to support a family. That simple act can take an immense amount of stress off the back of that child’s caretaker. While you watch the kids, the caregiver has an opportunity to focus on getting important things done, but also more importantly has a moment to recuperate with some “me time” — reducing their stress.
Giving your time and conversation can be just as valuable to a new or stressed parent. This simple act can help a caregiver reduce their own stress by being able to talk out their feelings. Furthermore, if you have experience with raising a child, you can offer to share your advice and act as a resource for them. Let them know they can turn to you as someone with shared experience when they have moments of uncertainty or anxiety. Even if you don’t personally have experience with raising a child, you can still listen. You can also share resources or you can connect them with someone you know who may be able to give them advice.
These small acts of kindness do make a difference, because we never fully know what a family might be dealing with. Even one of these acts could mean the world to a caregiver who may feel alone in raising their child.
As friends and neighbors, we can work to build support systems around families, making sure they know they are not in this alone and their community is behind them. I ask the people of Denton County to show your support for vulnerable families in our area. Show them that we have a community that is on their side, and that is willing and ready to support them in any way they need.
Will you join me in supporting families here in our community?
April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. If you see abuse, report it to 1-800-252-5400 or go to www.txabusehotline.org. If a child’s life is in danger, call 911.
CASA needs community volunteers: If you’re interested in learning about the work of CASA of Denton County in the child welfare system, call 940-243-2272 or visit casadenton.org for more information.
MELINDA GALLER is board president of CASA of Denton County.