What was one hard obstacle to overcome?
Figuring out my own parameters. I knew what I had been doing before—no real working hours, no separation between work from home, no boundaries—was no longer tenable.
What was easier than you thought?
Creating a new circle of support. When you work for a company or have the same circle of clients, you’re essentially working with the same group of people all the time. Sometimes it’s good and sometimes it’s bad. At one point, I was in a situation where the environment was unhealthy and I knew it, but it wasn’t until I was far removed from it that I realized how bad it was. Creating a new space for myself allowed me to have autonomy and the ability to work with people that have similar work ethos.
What’s something you learned along the way that other people, hoping to do something similar, should know?
You are never fated to a choice forever. You can make a new choice. You can go down a path and say, Shoot, that wasn’t the path and hit a hard right. You can declare something and recant. Just keep shuffling along or you’ll sit there and languish in indecision. Better to be in motion and pivot than be frozen in ambivalence. (I say this as someone who often looks like a meerkat in the desert.)
Did anyone or anything inspire you along the way?
I had created a series of videos about online sex abuse and exploitation, really geared towards young people, stressing that abuse is never a victim’s fault. A couple of young people commented and asked if I could create a video from the point of view of a mom telling them that it wasn’t their fault. That broke me. The idea that some people out there just need someone affirming that abuse isn’t their fault continues to renew my resolve that this work is important.
What has this fundamentally changed for you?
I’m on TV now! That’s weird. I turn on a streaming app and my big-ass head is staring back at me. This was not part of any five-year plan or 10-year plan or one-on-one or 360 review or “Tim Ferriss shotgun-a-green-juice-and-write-down-your-goals” template. But it’s been an incredible tool in raising awareness. The nonprofit space is definitely different from the for-profit space, and this has been a learning experience.
Roo Powell (@roo_pow) is on a mission to expose the dangers of and prevent online child sex abuse. In the latest episode of #UndercoverUnderage, Roo and her team juggle three dangerous predators at the same time. Stream episode 5 now on #discoveryplus. pic.twitter.com/SoGhFZrUAH
— Investigation Discovery (@DiscoveryID) November 23, 2021
I now work out of an office downtown because it’s been a pivotal part of putting boundaries in my life. I’m very much not working at home, which is the opposite of the trend since the pandemic started. Shower every day! Pants every day! Makeup most days!
Do you think you could go back/do you want to?
I could go back, sure. At the moment, I don’t want to. I think I still have more work to do in this space. But writing will always remain a true love.
Tell us your reinvention song.
There’s this rapper based in London named Little Simz. Her work really got noticed in 2019, and then she became popular on TikTok this year. She’s a great performer, and I think her song “Venom” is just a cool, feminist anthem, but not in a “let’s go girls, rah-rah” way—but in a dark, energetic and powerful kind of way.
How would you define yourself now?
I think the Twitter bio version of it is something like “Writer, child advocate, founder of SOSA” but also that person in Undercover Underage who puts decoys online to identify predators for law enforcement. It’s difficult because once I start saying that, I ruin a lot of dinner parties. In polite company, I’m generally vague and say “I’m a writer and I work in the nonprofit sector, could you please pass the cucumber salad?”