But the COVID-19 pandemic is impacting every aspect of our lives, and that includes how kids interact with each other and how school leaders can work to fight against bullying.
District leaders said they are getting fewer bullying reports for this point in the school year, but what they are seeing is mostly online and not in person.
Safe Schools Director Diane Wyatt said that is a product of the current environment, with more students attending school online instead of in-person.
“More kids with that computer in front of them, it’s almost as if it’s a safeguard in front of them because they can start something with another kid behind the screen instead of face to face,” Wyatt said.
She said while fewer kids on campus has lead to less opportunity for physical bullying, there is a downside as well.
“We don’t have all of our kids face to face, so we don’t have the ability to look them in the eye and say, ‘How are you doing? What can we do? Those pieces,” Wyatt said.
That’s where programs like Boca Raton Community High School’s “We Dine Together” come into play.
Teacher Jordan Hernandez helped spearhead the club a few years ago and it quickly garnered national attention. The club went from about 50 members in its first year to more than 300 today. But dining together these days isn’t quite so easy.
“We’ve been getting creative in how we engage students at lunch time, so, obviously, it’s a little different because we would pack my classroom (before COVID-19),” Hernandez said.
He said it is more important that ever to make students feel included and help everyone stay connected. When school went virtual in the spring, he said, “a lot of parents were reaching out saying their kids were distraught, disconnected from their friends. They felt disconnected from their teachers.”
If you are a victim of bullying or you witness it, you can report it anonymously to the school district by calling the hotline at 561-434-8200 or filling out the online form found here.
“It really had the sole purpose of trying to find students who were new to the school or sat by themselves, maybe they were in-between friend groups and just kind of invite them in and have a free slice of pizza and meet some new people,” Hernandez said of the origin.
He said student leaders from different backgrounds with different interests all came together with “one common goal to break bread with one another and get to know each other.”
Last spring, he and several students began the #CoronaCant movement, as in corona(virus) cannot stop us from being engaged and empowering each other.
The movement took on a big following, and earned national recognition as well. Hernandez started a podcast as well to help reach kids who were struggling and bring in clinical help to advise them.
“What we saw a lot of was the kids who were bullying felt isolated,” he said. “They felt aggravated from being disconnected from teachers and students. Our job is really to try to engage those students who are struggling, students who may potentially be a bully or aggressor.”
Hernandez said this new way of life has been difficult on the entire school community.
“It’s not just for the students,” he said. “The teaching community, we feel out of sorts because we can’t physically teach the same way we were before and students are trying to find their way with learning. We were having a mental-health crisis before and now we’re seeing that even more exacerbated because of the inherent isolation and social distancing. We’re a club built on finding students who are isolated. These conversations may not be happening at home. Maybe their parents are emotionally absent, so where do they get it? In school with their second parents who are teachers, so we’re having these conversations.”
Hernandez said it has been very rewarding to see the positive impact it is having on campus. He said their virtual meetings have been vital during this time.
“A lot of our virtual meetings are students giving their own testimonials and they’re not the type of students you would expect,” Hernandez said. “Pedro is a standout kid, but Pedro will share openly in a vulnerable sense, like, ‘Hey, I moved from another country, I was overwhelmed, these were my insecurity, this is what I struggled with and this is how I got through.'”
Pedro Cleto graduated last spring and was an active part of the “We Dine Together” program and #CoronaCant movement. Now he serves as a mentor to the younger students to help them identify the opportunity they have to help others.
The international student said he remembers the feeling of coming to a new school not knowing anyone and how “We Dine Together” made a difference in his life.
“We felt the difference in the school community,” he said.
Dr. April Bullard, instructional specialist with the school district, keeps track of the bullying reports in schools.
“When we say bullying, we identify bullying with the RIP component — repetitive, imbalance of power, purposeful actions. That’s a bullying incident,” Bullard said. “The teasing, inappropriate language, sometimes there are threats among students.”
Bullard said some of the cyber bullying is happening during school time but a lot of it is during non-school hours and on social media. She said most of it is on TikTok and SnapChat, mostly among middle and high school students.
“The few I’ve seen recently, someone says something during a Google meet, someone logs someone out, someone texts someone inappropriately,” she said of recent bullying reports. “Right now because of virtual, we don’t have a lot of the face-to-face contact, so that’s why the numbers may not be as high as they would be at this time of the school year. So, hopefully, when more students are returning to campus, we can keep those numbers lower.”
Wyatt wants students to know there is nothing wrong with reporting bullying.
“They are not snitching,” Wyatt said. “We get so many kids that talk about snitching, that it’s bad. They are helping to take care of themselves and take care of the kids around them and keep them safe. There is nothing wrong with speaking up and if you see something, say something.”
The district also has a safe schools ambassador program, which involves student leaders reaching out to their peers to give them a safe place to talk about their struggles. Jordan Hernandez helps supervisor the safe school ambassadors program at Boca Raton Community High School.
Wyatt said the program is growing.
“We’ve actually started to see our high school students, in addition to being advocates on their own campus, they are now adopting an elementary school and working with the ambassador groups at the elementary school,” she said.
The district is trying to make it as easy as possible for students to report bullying.
“When students log in, we have the bullying tile, so it’s a tile that says ‘report bullying,’ and they can just click on it and type in their information,” Bullard said. “We really want to empower our students to report if they are bullied in any way or if they see someone being bullied. That’s why we have these channels for students to report bullying.”
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