Conversely, when Annika Lucke, 23, moved home to Spokane last March, from her college apartment in Bellingham, Washington, she immediately redecorated her bedroom, so it looked more her like apartment at school and less like her room in high school. “I didn’t want to revert back to that mentality,” she said. She created a more productive study space and took down her Taylor Swift calendar.
For Prull, besides losing her freedom, the biggest setback was the loss of artistic space and equipment. “At school I had all the resources available for my major. Back home, I had nothing,” she said.
Well, except, an old empty barn in her backyard, which she converted into a studio. “I was super lucky.”
Prull went back to Tufts on Aug. 29. After she has three negative COVID-19 tests in one week, she can begin attending in-person classes.
While every student adapts to the college living upheaval differently, here are a few ways homes and families can make the unscheduled stay back home better for both parents and adult children:
• Put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
After a child goes off to college, both the kids and the parents change, Janning said. When you’re all back together, it won’t be like it was before. Pay attention to the differences. Validate kids’ experiences away from home by not expecting them to follow the same limits (like curfew) that they did when they were in high school.
• Set and respect boundaries.