Shortly after Izabel’s death, a video surfaced. It was Izabel sitting in a garage with shorn hair. A voice, presumably the girl’s father, scolds her: “The consequences of getting messed up, man, you lost all that beautiful hair. Was it worth it?
Anna Merlen of Jezebel, in her write-up of the incident, also includes a Google Plus post from Izabel last year where she wrote about feeling bullied in school:
“I feel hated most of the time im in school i feel looked down on and i get judged alot…. But what keeps me going is people like kian who have gone through the same thing as me… In a school with so many people its weird to say ‘i feel alone’ but the truth is that you really do feel alone. So thanks for everything kian….”
This “public shaming” thing so many parents are doing is really just bullying.
Why do you need the whole Internet to see you discipline your child? Why do you have to humiliate your child to teach them a lesson?
There are plenty of articles out there on how young people are narcissists who crave validation on the Internet, but I submit that they aren’t the only ones. Public shamers are going viral on YouTube and it’s not because they truly want what’s best for their kids. It’s for attention.
And to cut off this young girl’s hair is simply disgusting to me. To alter your daughter’s appearance, something that may very well have been integral to her identity, to her being – that’s not discipline.
This family is going through a tragic time. But this is a girl who was clearly depressed even before her father cut off her hair and put the video on the Internet. Her death could have been prevented.
Parents, please think before publicly shaming your kids. Think about what you’re doing to them, to their confidence, to their trust in you.
The damage isn’t worth the clicks.
Source: Blue Nation Review